Friday, January 9, 2009

Stand for Truth and Righteousness

I watch my girls recite this motto at church once a month and because these words echo in my mind I find it impossible not to react or voice my opinion at this time.
Over the last couple of years, gradually our school district has allowed and sanctioned school activities on Sundays. Some of these activities, students are required to attend. Because this has been a gradual process and because we want our kids to get good grades, we've managed to squeeze a few of these activities in because they either (A) didn't interfere with church attendance or (B) we didn't want our child to be the only one who couldn't attend because of our seemingly freakish Sabbath rules. I can't abide any longer. Chloe has two school sanctioned activies in Jan. and Feb., both require all day attendance on Sunday. She also just texted me and told me their Sadie Hawkins dance has been moved to a Sunday. A school dance on Sunday????

I have written a letter to the school principal, which I plan to copy and send throughout the district. Please read it for me. I'm not the best writer and especially don't want to come across as a crazy zealot Mormon. I want everyone to understand Sabbath worship is a Christian thing...not Mormon thing. I know over the years we have gradually accepted activities for a variety of reasons and justifications and that has been wrong of us Christians to do. If you have small children you may not think this applies to you. You are wrong. Until 2 years ago there were no school activities on Sundays, now we are up to at least one a month. Please do something about this now or it will be twice as bad when your children are in High School. I'm also asking you, if you live in the North Kansas City school district, that you too write a letter.

Mr. Skretta,
I appeal to you, not because I believe my voice will make a difference but because my voice finally needs to be heard. I know there are others who agree with and share their opinions with me but because of a gradual process that has taken place, they too know that their opinions may not be valued at this time.

For some time I have noticed that gradually the school district has been making allowances and in fact, encouraging school sanctioned activities on Sunday. Sunday to my family and many other Christians is a day of rest, a day of worship, a Sabbath day that we spend reflecting on our Savior as well as regrouping as families. It has been an important and hallowed day in our home and hopefully can continue to be. Over the last few years, I’ve noticed here and there, the calendaring of school district activities on Sunday. Normally, we avoid attending those activities unless attendance is required for a grade, which has sometimes been the case. Arguments against our beliefs are that maybe perhaps as long as we attend church service, that going to school activities are alright. This is completely contrary to the whole concept of the Sabbath. We keep the Sabbath not only to keep ourselves from being in the world but also to prevent others from having to work and be in the world. We wish everyone could and would rest! Our church services are 3 hours long in the middle of the day, so even if we felt like we could allow our children to participate in school activities, most of them are scheduled during the time that we are attending church. I suppose I’m even trying to make justifications and excuses for my own belief as I’ve had to in the last couple of years so that my children were able to participate in school activities on Sunday. However, this month alone there are two Sunday activities and now I’ve been informed that the Sadie Dance has been scheduled for a Sunday. This can’t possibly be justified. Dances involve eating out for dinner and other fun activities which are completely contrary to worship on the Sabbath. At some point I must put my foot down.

There are six other days of the week. Am I meant to believe and understand that we as families can’t have one day a week for ourselves and for worship? Is it too much to ask for my children and others not to be required to give everyday of the week to the North Kansas City School District or is the district more important than my family or my beliefs? I’m sure there are many other families who agree with me but are frustrated as I am. Because school activities have gradually come into our lives, it has gradually been accepted. No longer can I not voice my opinions. It is wrong to schedule activities on Sunday, especially school sanctioned and sponsored activities and especially when attendance is required for a grade. My children will be disappointed in missing a school dance on Sunday. But as grades and college are somewhat of a priority in our family, it is more than a disappointment when my child can’t achieve the very best grade possible because of school functions scheduled on Sunday. Our school district prides itself on tolerance...tolerance of cultures and religions and freedoms. We need to be tolerant of the view of well over half of our city's opinion about the Sabbath.

Mr. Skretta, please know that we have been great supporters of the school district and our children’s education. They have been fully involved in your programs and academics and have excelled. We have been pleased so far with the education they are receiving and are satisfied with the efforts of you and your staff. I should have written this letter sooner and never again will I wait so long when my opinion needs to be heard. I realize calendars and planning are in motion and I also realize I am one person and one opinion. I know there are others who would appreciate my sentiments and would agree…we would love to have our Sabbaths remain sacred. Therefore, my appeal…please allow us to keep the Sabbath Day Holy and not allow school sanctioned activities to be scheduled on Sunday. Help me and thousands of others, keep our families intact and strong by allowing us the opportunity of one day a week with them. I believe strengthening our homes and families will impact our society more than anything else we can do. You may have the other 6 days, just give us Sunday.

Thank you for courtesy of time and thoughtfulness on matters of my beliefs.
With Regards,

Cheryl Kanenwisher

Please read and let me know what I need to add/delete or say!

17 comments:

Trying to Stay Calm! said...

Way to go Standing for Truth and Righteousness! Hugs :) Shauna

Alexis said...

Wow, what a commendable stand you have taken!
That letter is great, especially the 3rd paragraph - it's concise, lets your cause be known, and effectively gets the point across!
If they don't implement changes promptly after receiving your letter, I'd be sincerely shocked.

margene f said...

This is great! I will have to craft my own so yours is not the only voice. Also, I just reread "A return to Virtue" this morning and this is exactly what she was talking about. First we tolerate, then we accept and eventually embrace. Way to go!!

Straight to Your Hart said...

It is your Duty. I know it is scary. I do also know that the Lord will be hand in hand with you regardless of the outcome. If Joseph Smith could carry the mantel at 14...you can too. How about the Savior? This is a cross He has born...and he will help you with the weight of this cause!

Praying that you will be able to have the strength of mind and spirit to "Stand for Truth and Righteousness!"

nikkicrumpet said...

Good for you for speaking up. I read about those school activites and was completely floored. I can't imagine a school thinking they have a right to do anything on a Sunday. Amazing how things have changed. I don't think they should even have activities on Saturday. A family needs time to be together for heck sakes! I love your letter..well done! It seems to me that in schools and colleges across this country they are trying so hard to undermine religion. My son is taking college coarses in Physcology and he says it's amazing how every professor treats him like a fool for believing in God. Schools are supposed to educate our children...not change our families beliefs or intrude on our family time and traditions. Even if you put religion aside it is still ridiculous of them to think they have a right to use non-school days for school activities. Good luck fighting the good fight!

emily and adrian said...

Even if I did not have children I would be irritated over this issue. When do the kids get a break? The schools are taking up too much of our time...period. Even if you don't go to church on Sundays...sometimes this is the ONLY day parents have off with their kids!
I think the letter is good. You may want to consider making it a little shorter, because often these administrators are bogged down with letters, and I would not be shocked if they skimmed half of what they read. But it's a very very good letter. You should also consider taking it to the school board. I've heard that often that's the only way to get results. Good job Cheryl...you are doing the right thing!

Aubrey said...

I love it, and you! Glad someone is taking a stand!!!

Amber said...

Dang girl! That sounded great! I absolutely agree!! I CANNOT believe that a dance would be scheduled on a Sunday! Unbelievable to me! It has gone way to far, and as a teacher, NEVER would a student be required to attend something for a grade on a sunday! I could maybe understand it being for extra credit, on saturday, or sunday. Family and the sabbath is absolutely first and no freaking school district should be dictating that. I'm all fired up now...

Kristi said...

A dance on Sunday? I don't think they're even doing that here in "forward-thinking" L.A.!
Great letter. Thanks for taking a stand!

Wuppett said...

I started reading your blog months ago, just as I am a single mom with no adult conversation, and a friend was following your blog.
Anyways... I am not Mormon, but am a Christian and I would stand behind this letter. WAY TO GO!!!

Natalie said...

Fantastic letter!! It's just the right balance of humility and firmness. I am so proud of you. You are a wonderful example. I want to be like you when I grow up!! Thank you for your courage and strength. WAY TO GO!!

Hunter Bug said...

Simple solution mom... lets move out of the district!!!! :)

Tanya said...

I can't believe that ....can I write a letter 20 states away??? Good luck!!

Heather said...

Very well said. I appreciate your actions...they will hopefully benefit me and family when we reach the school-age years.

sharon said...

Awesome letter!! I am so proud of you!!! Now if we could only clone you - hmm that's another discussion. Love you!!!

Laretha said...

This is a great letter! I too have written a couple of letters this year to our schools regarding respect and tolerance of our spiritual beliefs. We need to remember that it was only one person who raised a fuss about her child saying "One nation under God" in public schools and her voice was heard all the way to the Supreme Court. It is time that Christians (Catholics/Baptists/Presbiterians/Mormons, etc.) take a stand...as you said for Truth and Righteousness or we risk losing all the freedoms the great founders of our nation fought, sacrificed and died for. I suppose what I'm saying is "Amen, sister".

Tiffany said...

I came across this and had to say...I commend you ! I totally agree with everything you said, I too am a mormon mom battling the same problem in our area! Way to stand up for True and Righteousness! You inspire me!

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